How did you discover your daughter had special needs (level 2 Autism and nonverbal)?
Janelle: We started noticing early signs with Ariana around age two. She wasn’t meeting her developmental milestones, particularly with speech, and she often preferred playing alone or repeating the same activity for long periods. After bringing up our concerns to her pediatrician, we were referred for an evaluation. She was officially diagnosed with Level 2 Autism and identified as nonverbal on October 20, 2022. While it was an emotional time, getting a diagnosis gave us the direction we needed to support her growth.
As a SAHM and homeschool teacher, how do you balance her needs with your needs and other responsibilities?
Janelle: As a stay-at-home mom and homeschool teacher, my days revolve around her needs, therapies, and growth. But I’m also a senior at the University of North Alabama, finishing up my bachelor’s degree in business management, with plans to graduate next year. It’s a lot to juggle, but I stay grounded by creating structure and keeping my priorities in focus. I wake up early or stay up late to complete schoolwork, use naptime or therapy blocks for studying, and rely on my support system when I need help. Most importantly, I give myself grace.
What support systems have you relied on, and how have they helped you manage caring for your daughter?
Janelle: I’m incredibly grateful for the support system God has surrounded me with. My mom has been a rock for our family—helping care for Ariana, stepping in when I need a break, and loving her granddaughter so well. Ariana’s dad is also deeply involved and plays a tremendous role in her daily life and progress. Outside of family, we have a strong therapy team that works with Ariana and encourages and educates me.
What advice would you offer moms of disabled children?
Janelle: First, you are not alone. The diagnosis might feel overwhelming, but it doesn’t define your child; it opens many amazing doors to understanding and advocacy. Learn everything you can but also trust your instincts. Some days are hard. Meltdowns happen, routines change, and progress can feel slow, but every step forward matters. Find your community, take breaks when you need to, and never stop fighting for what your child needs. Your love is their safest place.
How has being an advocate/connect group leader for Autism Support of Alabama impacted your life?
Janelle: It has been life-changing. Not only have I found community, but I’ve also been able to use my voice to uplift and inform others. Leading has given me purpose and has allowed me to turn our experience into empowerment, for myself and other families navigating similar paths.
What are some of your favorite things to do for self-care?
Janelle: I’ve started being intentional about myself because I can’t pour from an empty cup. For me, self-care looks like going for walks, strength training, gardening, reading, and spending quiet time with God. I also love setting aside Sundays as reset days to clean, prepare, and realign my spirit for the week ahead. I’m learning that taking care of myself isn’t selfish. It’s necessary to be the mom Ariana deserves.
What are some of the most fulfilling aspects of motherhood, raising your daughter with a disability?
Janelle: The most fulfilling part is witnessing her progress. Motherhood has taken on a deeper meaning through her. I’ve learned to celebrate things I once took for granted. I see the world through her eyes now. Full of wonder, resilience, and quiet strength. She’s taught me patience, empathy, and the true meaning of unconditional love. And while the journey is not always easy, it’s sacred. Every day I get to love her, advocate for her, and walk beside her is a blessing I’ll never take for granted.
Rapid Fire Questions
One thing you wish you could tell your younger self? God is making something beautiful out of your story, even if you can’t see it yet.
One thing you’re most proud of? Being an advocate for my
daughter while balancing my education and growth.
Favorite genre of music? Gospel and old-school R&B.
One word that describes you? Resilient.
One thing on your bucket list of adventures? A trip to Italy!
Janelle Varner is with her partner, Devion, and they raise their six-year-old daughter, Ariana, together in Prattville, AL.
